Well, I have been looking at all this sort of stuff this week (and spending £££s at various suppliers for the new project!) so I can make a few observations on both current stuff available, and how I have done stuff previously.
First, as far as the inner bushes for the lower wishbone are concerned - Lotus list a different part for the frontmost inner bush and the rearmost inner bush - this is because one is slightly more pliable than the other in it's original manufacture.....
..... I don't know if that is still the case with the 'currently available' poly bushes, but I suspect that it is a slightly different shore rating on the bush - who knows? Either way, it is the only option that I know of (or can find) anyway, so if yours need changing, this is the only way to do it, short of getting some bespoke ones made, or chancing across some NOS ones.
The lower balljoint on the front TCAs is one of those parts which I have never needed to replace - they seem to go on forever, unless they suddenly don't!
It is one of the very few parts which I examine to see if it is bad, and only consider replacing if needed - otherwise, I just re-grease it (the boot has already gone in the bin by this point to examine the actual ball & socket with all grease removed), fit a new boot, and use a new nylock when assembling it all. I never use any chemical degreasant when cleaning them up as I don't want any residue to 'dilute' the new grease - just wipe it off with a clean rag.
It sounds like you have an issue with your boot, as it certainly should be attached both top (to shaft) and bottom (to TCA) with either spring clips, cable ties or locking wire (I favour stainless locking wire).
As boots are cheap as chips and generally get damaged when dismantling the suspension anyway, I always have a bag full in the garage - I cant remember the exact dimensions, or the cross-reference (some tractor, IIRC), but a 'universal' item does the job fine - something like
https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/304193755192 will have what you need, or you can just measure a good one and buy that particular size (the only measurements you need are top diameter, bottom diameter and height).
As the boot has (presumably) only been detached since the last MOT (otherwise it should have been noted), the actual balljoint is unlikely to have picked up enough crap to have worn, but give it a good check over, as a new balljoint is only £15 at SJs.... but worth adding a few other bits to the order to cope with the minimum postage! (I started off with 2 raft bushes in my basket and the final basket ended up at £250ish - postage only went up 40p

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